My last ex was/is a really amazing guy.   I would never trade my Fiance for any other person in the world, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t other great men out there.  Nor does that mean any of my exes were not great, they just were not for me.  So why is it seem so wrong that I care that his life is going well?

I just don’t understand it.  After a serious relationship, how do you just cast the other person aside like they never existed?  How are you not supposed to remember their birthday or hope they’re doing well?

Yes, I decided our relationship was over.  Yes, I thought we should go our separate ways.  But where in there does the love we had just disappear to?

I hope he’s doing well.  I hope he likes his job, has fun with friends, is dating around or has a great girlfriend/fiance/wife.  I hope things are running smoothy and that he’s happy.  And damnit, there is nothing wrong with that!

So why is so hard to write a email, “Happy birthday, hope all is well.”?  Why do I feel like the only socially acceptable thing is to pretend like he never existed and pray I never randomly see him out in public?

Who knows.. The fact of that matter is I’ve never cared what is or isn’t socially acceptable and that’s why that email is in his inbox right now.  Because I do care and there is nothing wrong with wishing someone well.